Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The Good Old Boys Club...NOT!
Sometimes becoming one of the guys is easier than it looks
How is anyone from the outside going to join in on a conversation when it’s being conducted in “pilotese”? And in most cases, how are they going to work up the nerve to ask a question when they know for a fact that no matter how they phrase it, it’s going to betray their lack of experience? And right there is the crux of the problem.
Any person new to any experience, aviation or otherwise, is going to be a) short of confidence bred of their lack of experience and knowledge and b) afraid of looking like an idiot around those who are obviously much more versed in the skill in question. What they don’t stop to think about is that every single one of the individuals involved in the fast-moving, difficult-to-understand conversations started out as a newbie in exactly the same position they’re in now. At one time everyone, even Chuck Yeager, Neil Armstrong and Patty Wagstaff, started as beginners and could not talk the talk, much less walk the walk. The newbies’ fear of looking like what they are—newbies—is in their own mind. For the most part, the group they’d like to penetrate is eager to welcome new blood into the fold.
Okay, so that last sentence isn’t always true. Aviation, like any high-profile activity, does have those who, shall we say, place more value on their position than they probably should and tend to talk down to the inexperienced. Just so newbies know: Those who talk down to them generally talk down to the rest of us too, and we all think they’re jerks. So don’t feel bad. They’re the exception, not the rule.
People with a passion, including practically all pilots, are driven to share that passion. In fact, when pilots sense someone has an interest, it brings out the zealot in us and we try to do our best to bring that person into the fold. And it has nothing to do with the well-
publicized plight of aviation’s poor health. We aren’t doing it for the good of aviation; we’re reaching out to someone for reasons that even we can’t clearly explain. It’s as if we remember when we were in that position and were standing at the edges of a wonderfully inviting pool, but were afraid to stick our toes in. We want everyone who has a feeling for the subject to jump in and splash around with the rest of us.
We in the so-called “Good Old Boys Club” can tell our story about how we got into aviation and, almost without exception, we’ll mention people who were pivotal in us becoming pilots. In my case, it was Fred Deeds, ex-Mustang pilot in the 354th Fighter Group, the pioneer Mustang group in 1943. He was my science teacher and the first to talk airplanes with me. Because we remember people like that, we strive to emulate them and give others the help that was given us.
So, the next time you’re hanging back at the edges of the crowd, step forward and say, “Hey, I’m new to this and was wondering….” In a heartbeat, you’ll be a lifetime member of the group.
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